Dare to dare

“Keep away from people who belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” – Mark Twain


One year ago my life was poles apart from now: I was unsatisfied, scared by the future and by the present too. Because of economic issues I had to leave university, law, in order to work and support my family, that had to bear both money and health problems. To me everything seemed absurd, meaningless: I was leaving a faculty I didn’t like, which I was attending because people said my passions would have led me nowhere and I didn’t want my parents to waste money, but I was nonetheless desperate because education has always been vital to me.

Why am I telling you? Why am I sharing this? Is it a complaint, an outburst?

I’ve decided to share my experience with you, dear reader, because I’d like everyone who is in a situation of doubt, desperation or simply confusion to read my witness that things can actually get better. My advice is never to give up: I worked, managed to help my family and spare some money. Now I’m finally attending university and those months of doubt and incertitude gave me the opportunity to rethink and reinvent my life. I was spending my time to fulfill someone else’s dream, I was bending to society and betraying myself: fot these reasons I chose to change my path and study Philosophy, embracing all my fears about a future job, others’ prejudices and judgements.

What happened? I am now happy and free. I’m studying things I adore, meeting wonderful people and enjoying a new environment which finally suits me.


Dare to dare, my friends: dare to challenge social conventions, don’t be scared by what people will think, don’t be afraid of being yourselves. This is what I learned both from my first faculty choice and then from my first solo travelling experience.

Just when everything seemed to be doomed, I got the opportunity to spend some days in Florence, alone, visiting this relatively close but unknown city: in those days I’ve met fantastic people who made me see that the closed and desperate world I was trapped in was all an illusion. Even in the worst of times, light can always burst into your life, if you allow it: that was an illusion because out there, yes, life and opportunities are awaiting you. Travelling made me think about my skills, dreams and the way to regain my happiness: wandering solo through streets and being the very master of my time was a most empowering experience. I won’t ever recommend solo travel enough.

In conclusion, after these two difficult years, I feel I shall tell you never to lose hope and, most importantly, don’t let anything or anyone stop you. Dare to dare, overstep others’ judgements and fear, discover yourself! Don’t just think about who you would like to be or what you would like to do: act now! D A R E

“Many great ideas have been lost because the people who had them could not stand being laughed at.” – Unknown


10 Replies to “Dare to dare”

    1. You’re right, but I fear that your worst enemy is actually yourself. So to gain confidence and achieve your goals, you have to try and challenge the obstacles you’re putting in your own way. ๐Ÿ™‚ At least, that’s a start. And the good thing is: no regrets.

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      1. Exactly, you put it into words. You just have to have that little bit of push at the start and you are ready to go ๐Ÿ™‚ Every start is hard, but usually so worth it.

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  1. I love that. It took me a long time to embrace being different. There will always be haters and doubters who are just noise and should be ignored. I have started over many times and it’s hard but giving up is never an option.

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  2. I love the quote & picture! I love the lesson in your story. I love it dare to dare. I love exploring and discovering. You get to learn so much about yourself when trying new things. Last year I did paragliding. I totally loved it. That freedom!!

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  3. Hello Iris,

    Hey! What a great read to start my Monday! I agree with your post. Daring to be different might sometimes scary (at first) but you’ll get used to it especially if you have targeted goals. I always want to be different and standout from the others – which is yes, kind-of bold move, but in this fast phase (digital) life, you have to move faster too. Always stick to your goals, and never mind what others are thinking.

    But always be THANKFUL to any blessings (and failures) you receive. Coz with these, we learned to move forward!

    For Urban Women

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